that I don’t communicate my thoughts or feelings understood. Recently, I been practising just this, how.. to. Because first it isn’t fun to not be understood correctly. And second, because I don’t.. I become angry due the frustration of not being understood. And some.. with some.. that we have to deal with in life. It is important to communicate very good. When I come across such situation, when I must and try and then think about how and even if it came across after when I go through it in my head I can feel such stress, have trouble to breath and hyperventilate. My head spins and I just have to spend some time away from people, to get a grip. I have come to see my need to be understood, not in all things and situations in life but sometimes it’s important. The future, my future, could some times depend on it. We all are not understood from time to time but it seems it’s so often I can’t communicate. I am a person who tries to figure out reasons to things and I also have this one and came to the reason must be that I don’t really really hear people and therefore haven’t learned to communicate. Which means I’m rather more wrapped up in myself than to really try understand another person. I understand, but I don’t let myself go deep down to understand them completely. The reason for that is I’m too weak for it. But, another story. So I haven’t learned to get understood because I don’t listen to others. But, the reason to why those symptoms show when is, ofc, my need to get understood.
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I’m very curious about your childhood… you remind me of an ex-girlfriend, who quite frankly was molested as a child.
I’m not saying you were, but I have this feeling there’s something in your past you haven’t really dealt with.
Be curious to hear your thoughts… but if it’s too personal… understood, me lady.
You are very perceptive, I must say. I wish I could rid the symptoms that tells the secrets to other people but it ain’t easy
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Ya know, I dont pretend to know the answers to ALL problems (just most of them), but I can tell you one thing, “they say” just talking about it helps rid the ghosts. And not to exploit your feelings, but one thing that I’m sure would be interesting to people out there, including people who have been in the same situation you have… would be to READ about someone’s deepest secrets.
It could be a cathartic theraputic thing for you, and it would be very moving and quite frankly, interesting reading for me and anyone else that happens upon this site.
I urge you to think about writing about ALL of it.
This was originally for mixedpearl but unfortunately I got a .net stack error on submission.
“Look at you go girl! Jumping into Linux head first and already creating cool looking web pages. I think you will be teaching me a thing or two soon. Things are great with Sully and I down here in New Mexico. Last week was the international balloon festival so there was hundreds if not thousands of hot air balloons flying around. Really amazing, I even got to go up in one and now I am completely hooked (another hobby I can not afford).
I do not know if you have solved the crashing problem but I was wondering if you opened up livna display configuration and changed the check box from proprietary driver to the open source one it may solve the problem (if it does than there is a conflicting driver library and we will have to sniff that out.) I forgot your email address so I am writing a little here. Although thinking about it I could gleen it from one of you comments I suppose. Any way looking good here as always and just a quick stop off for me gtg.”
MrDeadworry
If i m supposed to give my advice……i wud just say that retain ur calm during communicating to anyone . dont get hyper. b relaxed and then easily speak out wat u want to and the way u want to.
if its hard for u to retain full calm try long and slow breathing, building up confidence of smoothness.
hope u’ll give it a try